Be Inspired

“Love someone because their soul inspires you, not because you’re interested in the relief from loneliness and companionship they can provide.

 Anybody can do that. Not just anybody can show you to yourself.”

Brianna Wiest

As Advised by Our First Lady

"Be focus in life and get what you feel you deserve. You deserve to have a fulfilling career and if you cannot match that with a man who deserves you, then you shouldn't try to, it will come."

Monica Geingos

Newspaper Report

You ruin your life by letting your past govern it.

"You ruin your life by letting your past govern it. It is common for certain things in life to happen to you. There will be heartbreak, confusion, days where you feel like you aren't special or purposeful. There are moments that will stay with you, words that will stick. You cannot let these define you – they were simply moments, they were simply words. If you allow for every negative event in your life to outline how you view yourself, you will view the world around you negatively. You will miss out on opportunities because you didn't get that promotion five years ago, convincing yourself that you were stupid. You will miss out on affection because you assumed your past love left you because you weren't good enough, and now you don’t believe the man or the woman who urges you to believe you are. This is a cyclic, self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don’t allow yourself to move past what happened, what was said, what was felt, you will look at your future with that lens, and nothing will be able to breach that judgment. You will keep on justifying, reliving, and fueling a perception that shouldn't have existed in the first place."

Brianna Wiest

You ruin your life by choosing the wrong person.

 "You ruin your life by choosing the wrong person. What is it with our need to fast-track relationships? Why are we so enamored with the idea of first becoming somebody’s rather than somebodies? Trust me when I say that a love bred out of convenience, a love that blossoms from the need to sleep beside someone, a love that caters to our need for attention rather than passion, is a love that will not inspire you at 6am when you roll over and embrace it. Strive to discover foundational love, the kind of relationship that motivates you to be a better man or woman, the kind of intimacy that is rare rather than right there. “But I don’t want to be alone,” we often exclaim. Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself. Wait for it. Please, I urge you to wait for it, to fight for it, to make an effort for it if you have already found it, because it is the most beautiful thing your heart will experience."

Brianna Wiest

Desperate Attempts

"When it comes to past lovers, sometimes it isn't worth trying to show them what they lost or what they could have had. Remember, you were always that, they didn't care then and they won't care now."

Okay with not being okay.

If letting go of things were easy, a lot of people wouldn't be reminiscing on things that still hurts.

"Accept your heartbreak. One can not stop pain. Pain is meant to be felt. Cry if you must.  Let it consume you if you must, and then allow it to be over..."

Don't be concerned with forgetting, moving on, letting go or anything people tell you that you need to do.You will do it in your own time,if you need to. It will happen when the time is right and no matter how much you want to control things, you can't.

"...Say goodbye after having fully experienced it. Learn from it, learn the meaning of decisions. Afterwards, you will admire your courage and your strength. Then you'll never allow anyone to break you in the same way again. " Mirtha Michelle

So, if there is something to let go of, let it be the pressure you have given yourself to feel nothing/get over/be at a certain point in your healing. Its okay to not be okay. Its okay to not be ready to let go.

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